life changing books & resources

As you may have guessed, I’m a big fan of using the insights and experiences of others to help generate growth.

Of course change doesn’t simply happen by picking up a book or reading a website (wouldn’t that be fabulous?). But these certainly can aid in developing new ways of thinking, feeling and being.

Here are some of the best self help books, relationship books, and overall life changing books to help you love yourself and live life to the fullest.

The books are listed in alphabetical order by author, along with a few words’ description straight from Amazon or the back of the book. Each provides a different angle or benefit, so see which speaks to what you most need right now. (Unless, of course, you’re the type who can have five books going at the same time, in which case, have at it!)

Also, I’m going to have another to add to the list when I release my e-book with lessons for living called Lessons for the Journey. If you’d like to be notified when this great new resource is available, please subscribe now and I’ll let you know as soon as it’s done!



The Language of Letting Go – by Melody Beattie
“…reflections that nurture spiritual and emotional health, serenity, and recovery. Focusing on self-esteem and acceptance…”

Radical Acceptance – by Tara Brach
“…a rich compendium of stories and techniques designed to help people awaken from what she calls “the trance of unworthiness.”

The Way of Transition: Facing Life’s Most Difficult Moments – by William Bridges

“Demonstrating how disillusionment, sorrow, or confusion can blossom into a time of incredible creativity and contentment, Bridges highlights the profound significance and value of endings in our lives.”

The Gifts of Imperfection – by Brené Brown
“…a guidebook for pilgrims on the journey to wholehearted living, which she defines as containing courage, compassion, deliberate boundaries, and connection.”


Feeling Good – by David Burns
“…outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life.”

When Things Fall Apart – by Pema Chodron
“…a treasury of wisdom for going on living when we are overcome by pain and difficulties.”

Boundaries – by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
“…how to set reasonable boundaries… makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose… biblical context of boundaries.”

Real Moments – by Barbara De Angelis
“…defines happiness not as an acquisition, but as a skill–the skill of capturing every moment and living it completely.”

A Guide to Rational Living – by Albert Ellis and Robert Harper
“…Direct, get-to-the-heart-of-the-problem methods teach you what you often do to needlessly upset yourself and what you can do, instead, to make yourself emotionally stronger.” – From back of book

The Power of TED – by David Emerald
“…focus is on … making a conscious shift to leading and working from a vision-focused and passion-based orientation.…”

Man’s Search for Meaning – by Viktor Frankl
“…argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.”

No More Mr. Nice Guy – by Robert Glover
(shows men who try too hard to be nice) “how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them…”

Peace is Every Step – by Thich Nhat Hahn
“…shows us how to make positive use of the very situations that usually pressure and antagonize us.”

Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence – by Rick Hanson

“Dr. Hanson’s four steps build strengths into your brain—counterbalancing its ancient negativity bias—making contentment and a powerful sense of resilience the new normal.”

The Fire Starter Sessions – by Danielle LaPorte
“…walks you through everything from defining your vision and managing fear and failure to standing in your full-throttle power while being grateful and giving back.”

The Dance of Intimacy – by Harriet Lerner
“…teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others..”

Care of the Soul – by Thomas Moore
“…a path-breaking lifestyle handbook that shows how to add spirituality, depth, and meaning to modern-day life by nurturing the soul.”

The Book of Awakening – by Mark Nepo
“…provides small doses of what really matters, simple truths, and stories for everyday lives, plus inspiration from the great wisdom traditions… designed to help us live the life we want by being present to the life we have.” – From back of book

The Power of Positive Thinking – by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

” With the practical techniques outlined in this book, you can energize your life—and give yourself the initiative needed to carry out your ambitions and hopes. “

Non-violent Communication – by Marshall Rosenberg

“Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to do three things:
1: Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
2: Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships
3: Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit.”

The Four Agreements – by Don Miguel Ruiz
“Rooted in traditional Toltec wisdom beliefs, four agreements in life are essential steps on the path to personal freedom.”

You are a Badass – by Jen Sincero
“The self-help book for people who desperately want to improve their lives but don’t want to get busted doing it.”

The Tools – by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels
“…changing your behavior, not just your attitude.”

The Power of Now – by Eckhart Tolle
“…takes readers on an inspiring spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self and reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light.”

A Return to Love – by Marianne Williamson

“The mega-bestselling spiritual guide in which Marianne Williamson shares her reflections on A Course in Miracles and her insights on the application of love in the search for inner peace.”

Websites (also check out Brené Brown’s TED talks on vulnerability and shame)

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